Why You Should Have A First Look | Asheville NC Wedding

So you are thinking about having a first look!

I’ll never forget the day I experienced watching a “first look” between a groom and his bride.

It was the fall of 2018 in Aurora, on Cayuga Lake. Anthony, stood on the dock overlooking the lake and watched the boats pass by. In the background, the song “Speechless” by Dan and Shay came over the speakers. Nicole, dressed in a beautiful white lace wedding gown, walked down the stairs of the lake house, anxious and ready to see her groom’s reaction. As she walked toward him, the smile on her face was sweet and priceless.  There is no other word to describe it then emotional when Anthony turned around to see his bride. The tears flooded down his face, he held her close, and whispered, “You look so beautiful.”

Just typing this now, I have serious goosebumps going up and down my spine. They cried, I cried, and it had to have been one of the most beautiful moments I’ve ever witnessed in my life.

So tell me more about this first look!

Although a first look isn’t exactly “traditional”, having a first look definitely comes with some pros!


  1.  It opens up the schedule for the rest of the day! The timeline doesn’t feel as crunched, and you can knock out the bridal party portraits in the morning and spend more time getting married photos taken after the ceremony or use that time to spend at cocktail hour!
  2. Everyone looks fresh!
  3. The bride can see what it’s like walking with the wedding dress.
  4. It is a moment just focused on you two. Other than the photographer snapping pictures, or the videographer taking a video, a first look is a great opportunity to have a moment between each other and to soak it all in. It takes the pressure off!
  5. It doesn’t make the moment any less emotional! If anything, the groom tends to be more emotional at the first look and just as excited when the bride is walking down the aisle!


  1. It is not traditional.

But what if we choose not to have a first look?

There is absolutely nothing wrong with not doing a first look either! Here are some pros and cons with not having a first look!


  1. It is traditional!
  2. It’s great if you want to use the time during family portraits and portrait time to have the guests go to a “guest-only” cocktail party.


  1. The timeline can feel a bit crunched.
  2. After the family portraits and bridal party portraits, it doesn’t leave much time for husband and wife photos.

As you can tell, I’m a huge fan of first looks! Although I would never force a couple to have a first look, I will always throw the option out there because there are so many pros to doing one! As mentioned above, it also allows a ton of flexibility with your timeline, so it doesn’t feel crunched or rushed! Whether or not you choose to have a first look, it is important to keep an open mind and an open heart! For all you know, it might be one of the best decisions you make on your wedding day!

Here are some more examples of a first look!

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