Have you ever wondered the difference between someone’s constructive criticism vs. someone projecting on you? If so, keep reading!
In a world full of feedback, it can be hard to know whether or not someone is projecting on you their beliefs and opinions or giving you helpful suggestions.
Not sure how to spot the difference? Here is how!
Projection vs. Constructive Criticism
Have you ever received unwanted negative feedback? For instance, let’s say you want to start a business and a family member tells you it’s dumb. Or maybe you just bought your dream car, and someone made a snarky remark.
This, my friend, is projection.
When someone is projecting on you, they take their own unconscious and unwanted emotions, beliefs, and stories and essentially attribute them to you. This happens because the person who is projecting on you is getting triggered by you. Rest assured, just because you are triggering a person doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you because there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
I personally think of projection as unwanted criticism.
On the flip side, there is also constructive criticism. When someone is offering constructive criticism, they give you feedback or suggestions that might be helpful for you. This type of advice is useful so that you can take it and implement it later.
Internalizing any negative feedback
Whether you are being projected on or receiving constructive criticism, it’s important to remember that you need to focus on what’s best for you and nobody else. You can either take the criticism with a grain of salt or internalize it and let it bother you later.
One of my favorite quotes growing up that my grandma and mom would say is, “consider the source.” Unless you want to be living that person’s life, don’t take it so personally.